Despite almost constant griping between me and my friends, “adulting” isn’t all bad. There are plenty of things that fill you with joy or pride or give you an overwhelming sense of freedom. These include:
- Eating what you want/when you want
- No curfew
Things that DO suck about being an adult include:
- Buying car tires
Layoffs are handled in a very specific way in my office. The whole office is informed that such-and-such positions are possibly going to be eliminated– managers for instance. Then they set aside one day and, on that day, each laid off employee is called down to HR one by one. The entire area watches them leave, sees them go from “Active” status to “Offline” on our in-office chat.
The whole office gets very quiet. It is a somber day in a workplace that’s usually full of laughter and energy. No one knows who will be called next. It could be you, it could be your boss. It could be your bosses boss. It affects they entire psyche of the office.
Layoffs are something that no one has prepared you for until they happen in your place of work. On a scale of 1 to I-don’t-know, top of that list is what to say to someone who’s just lost their job. “I’m sorry” doesn’t seem to cut it. “I’ll miss you” feels a little to yearbook-y. “I hope whoever fired you gets gum in their hair and a rock in their shoe” is just straight up bad juju.
I’m very lucky in that most of my coworkers are somewhere around middle age. They’ve been through the whole layoff thing. They check in on you to make sure you’re ok, and are generally an amazingly supportive group.
As someone who just experienced this for the first time, I had a few take-aways.
- Be empathetic.
- It’ll affect you, too. Whether directly or indirectly.
- It’s ok to be emotional.
- Look for support and be supportive in turn.
- Don’t dwell on the “whys” or “what ifs.”
Now, as for buying car tires…
You know that sense of accomplishment you get when you do something REALLY adult for the first time? Like the first time you bought a car and were just super proud of yourself– before you realized you’d likely gotten yourself into several years of debt, of course?
Well, having to buy car tires is basically the exact opposite of that feeling. It’s kind of like going to the gynecologist. You know it’s the right thing to do and it’s better in the long run. But it doesn’t make the concept any more appealing.
Car tires are expensive. To buy new starts around $50, if you’re lucky, and some people spend upwards of $200. For EACH. TIRE. That’s a whole lot of moola! Plus labor, wheel alignment, so on you’re looking at around $400 total on the low end of things.
They make your brakes work a little better and they’re new and shiny. Maybe they smell nice if you’re like me and weirdly like the smell of rubber. But there are a lot of things that make me MUCH happier at a much lower price.
Ah well. Chest la vie, mes cheries.